Family Movie Nights are a Friday tradition that we rarely miss. We’ve perfected the art…
Sometimes conversation doesn’t flow easily with my kids. Either their engrossed in an activity, or I don’t have the words to answer their questions – all sorts of things get in the way when you’re trying to communicate those big, important life lessons. One thing I have found that consistently works for me, surprisingly, is casually chatting during or after a movie or TV show that has been promoting the same message that I want to get across to my kids.
Many times we’ll be driving home from the movie theatre, or getting ready for bed after family movie night at home and the talk will turn the what we’ve just watched. We’ll share our favourite parts – what made us laugh and cry, and I’ll casually throw other questions in the mix. Why do you think that character behaved that way? Wasn’t it nice when….? How did you feel when…..? Has someone ever said/done that to you? How did you respond? It opens up a great dialogue where those messages that she absorbed subconsciously are translated into her daily life. They have more meaning and hopefully help her learn some important lessons the not-so-hard way.
There are a lot of great shows with important life lessons built into every episode for kids of all ages! If you haven’t checked them out already, try these ones on for size:
Sibling Rivalry: Watch The Hive – S1E1: Babee’s Room
Listening to Parents: Watch Puffin Rock – S1E6: Stormy Weather/ Baba’s Adventure
Peer Pressure: Watch Fuller House – Ep. S1E6: The Legend of El Explosivo
Actions Have Consequences: Watch – S1E1&2: Pilot & Consequently
Body Image: Watch – S1E16: Home
My kids aren’t the only ones learning. I remember the first time I watched Inside Out, Joy is trying to cheer Bing Bong on, but it’s only when Sadness takes the time to sit and empathize with him, and let him feel his sadness, that he’s able to recover. Later on in the movie Joy realizes that many of Riley’s happiest memories came through difficult, sad times. It was a really important reminder for me as a parent that too often I try to cheer my kids through sad times when really I need to listen, empathize and just let them feel their sadness or their anger or their fear.
While they’re not the only tool in my parenting belt, movies and TV shows open the door to important conversations with my kids.
Tell me what movies or TV shows have lead to surprising conversations with your children?
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